Type 6: The loyalist, the guardian

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E-SymSixlabeledThe Committed, Security-Oriented Type:
Engaging, Responsible, Anxious, and Suspicious

For more about the meaning of the arrows, see below.

Type Six in Brief

The committed, security-oriented type. Sixes are reliable, hard-working, responsible, and trustworthy. Excellent “troubleshooters,” they foresee problems and foster cooperation, but can also become defensive, evasive, and anxious—running on stress while complaining about it. They can be cautious and indecisive, but also reactive, defiant and rebellious. They typically have problems with self-doubt and suspicion. At their Best: internally stable and self-reliant, courageously championing themselves and others.

  • Basic Fear: Of being without support and guidance
  • Basic Desire: To have security and support
  • Enneagram Six with a Five-Wing: “The Defender”
  • Enneagram Six with a Seven-Wing: “The Buddy”

Key Motivations: Want to have security, to feel supported by others, to have certitude and reassurance, to test the attitudes of others toward them, to fight against anxiety and insecurity.

The Meaning of the Arrows (in brief)

When moving in their Direction of Disintegration (stress), dutiful Sixes suddenly become competitive and arrogant at Three. However, when moving in their Direction of Integration (growth), fearful, pessimistic Sixes become more relaxed and optimistic, like healthy Nines.

Examples: Robert F. Kennedy, Malcolm X, Princess Diana, George H. W. Bush, Tom Hanks, Bruce Springsteen, Candice Bergen, Gilda Radner, Meg Ryan, Helen Hunt, Mel Gibson, Patrick Swayze, Julia Roberts, Phil Donahue,Jay Leno, John Goodman, Diane Keaton, Woody Allen, David Letterman,Andy Rooney, Jessica Lange, Tom Clancy, J. Edgar Hoover, Richard Nixon, and “George Costanza” (Seinfeld).

Type Six Overview

We have named personality type Six The Loyalist because, of all the personality types, Sixes are the most loyal to their friends and to their beliefs. They will “go down with the ship” and hang on to relationships of all kinds far longer than most other types. Sixes are also loyal to ideas, systems, and beliefs—even to the belief that all ideas or authorities should be questioned or defied. Indeed, not all Sixes go along with the “status quo”: their beliefs may be rebellious and anti-authoritarian, even revolutionary. In any case, they will typically fight for their beliefs more fiercely than they will fight for themselves, and they will defend their community or family more tenaciously than they will defend themselves.

The reason Sixes are so loyal to others is that they do not want to be abandoned and left without support—their Basic Fear. Thus, the central issue for type Six is a failure of self-confidence. Sixes come to believe that they do not possess the internal resources to handle life’s challenges and vagaries alone, and so increasingly rely on structures, allies, beliefs, and supports outside themselves for guidance to survive. If suitable structures do not exist, they will help create and maintain them.

Sixes are the primary type in the Thinking Center, meaning that they have the most trouble contacting their own inner guidance. As a result,

they do not have confidence in their own minds and judgments.

This does not mean that they do not think. On the contrary, they think—and worry—a lot! They also tend to fear making important decisions, although at the same time, they resist having anyone else make decisions for them. They want to avoid being controlled, but are also afraid of taking responsibility in a way that might put them “in the line of fire.” (The old Japanese adage that says, “The blade of grass that grows too high gets chopped off” relates to this idea.)

Sixes are always aware of their anxieties and are always looking for ways to construct “social security” bulwarks against them. If Sixes feel that they have sufficient back up, they can move forward with some degree of confidence. But if that crumbles, they become anxious and self-doubting, reawakening their Basic Fear. (“I’m on my own! What am I going to do now?”) A good question for Sixes might therefore be: “When will I know that I have enough security?” Or, to get right to the heart of it, “What is security?” Without Essential inner guidance and the deep sense of support that it brings, Sixes are constantly struggling to find firm ground.

Sixes attempt to build a network of trust over a background of unsteadiness and fear. They are often filled with a nameless anxiety and then try to find or create reasons why. Wanting to feel that there is something solid and clear-cut in their lives, they can become attached to explanations or positions that seem to explain their situation. Because “belief” (trust, faith, convictions, positions) is difficult for Sixes to achieve, and because it is so important to their sense of stability, once they establish a trustworthy belief, they do not easily question it, nor do they want others to do so. The same is true for individuals in a Six’s life: once Sixes feel they can trust someone, they go to great lengths to maintain connections with the person who acts as a sounding board, a mentor, or a regulator for the Six’s emotional reactions and behavior. They therefore do everything in their power to keep their affiliations going. (“If I don’t trust myself, then I have to find something in this world I can trust.”)

Although intelligent and accomplished, Connie still has to wrestle with the self-doubt of her type:

“As my anxiety has come under control, so has my need to ‘check out’ everything with my friends. I used to have to get the nod of approval from several hundred (just joking!) ‘authorities.’ About nearly every decision would involve a council of my friends. I usually would do this one on one: ‘What do you think, Mary?’ ‘If I do this, then that might happen.’ Please make up my mind for me!’…Recently, I’ve narrowed my authorities to just one or two trusted friends, and on occasion, I’ve actually made up my own mind!“

Until they can get in touch with their own inner guidance, Sixes are like a ping-pong ball that is constantly shuttling back and forth between whatever influence is hitting the hardest in any given moment. Because of this reactivity, no matter what we say about Sixes, the opposite is often also as true. They are both strong and weak, fearful and courageous, trusting and distrusting, defenders and provokers, sweet and sour, aggressive and passive, bullies and weaklings, on the defensive and on the offensive, thinkers and doers, group people and soloists, believers and doubters, cooperative and obstructionistic, tender and mean, generous and petty—and on and on. It is the contradictory picture that is the characteristic “fingerprint” of Sixes, the fact that they are a bundle of opposites.

The biggest problem for Sixes is that they try to build safety in the environment without resolving their own emotional insecurities. When they learn to face their anxieties, however, Sixes understand that although the world is always changing and is, by nature uncertain, they can be serene and courageous in any circumstance. And they can attain the greatest gift of all, a sense of peace with themselves despite the uncertainties of life.

(from The Wisdom of the Enneagram, p. 235-236)

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If you fit into this personality type, try these tips:

  • Avoid procrastination by setting yourself deadlines for achievement of specific goals.
  • Don’t avoid a task just because the instructions are confusing – instead, ask for clarification.
  • Seek feedback from a group of trusted friends and family so that you can deal with your self confidence issues.

Having a strong conscience and being faithful to others is preferable to being helpless and unsure of yourself.

There are a lot of things I could tell you about the enneagrams. If you want me to get into details about this personality type, if you want to find out what traits you should develop and what issues you should resolve, leave a comment bellow. If we get to 200 requests I'll write more about this personality type!

  • ioana

    m-am regasit si eu, dar vreau continuarea 🙂

  • Narcis Torgai

    Da , asa este! Si doresc continuarea

  • Paula

    M-am regasit. Astept continuarea.

  • Gabriel

    Da, testul tau a pus punctul pe i, cum se spune. Astept continuarea !

  • Florin Adrian

    Multumesc! Am vazut care este temerea cea mai mare,frica,ce fac in continuare?

    • http://www.castigatimp.ro Vaida Bogdan

      Am sa revin cu un mail care detaliaza rezultatele testului 🙂

  • Ghinda

    Sigur ca vrem o continuare/un eventual ajutor.

  • Tudor D.

    iti las eu mai multe numai sa fie 100.. 🙂

  • Crysty

    Tipul 6: Devotatul. Loialul da ai dreptate cu Teama de necunoscut

  • Crysty

    Ajuta ce as putea sa fac putin ajutor …….

  • CAMILLA

    Aici, da!….ma regasesc….si ceea ce nu stiam ca “zace” in mine a iesit la suprafata intr-o forma si dimensiune gigantica cand mi-am schimbat “directia” vietii in alta parte (am decis sa schimb modelul suferintei – si culmea!!! (: a venit alta si mai mare care m-aa—–speriat rauuu rau.. ca am facut atacuri de panica – ihu!–ce drum greu am ales! – in loc sa aleg si eu o “carare batatorita”, mahh! – ce am mai patimit ca “plata” pt. curajul de a ma “arunca” in necunoscut – abia imi revin)…multumesc…vreu si alte informatii despre teama…am constientizat ca e unul din demonii mei cu care am inceput usor usor sa lucrez ….

  • CAMILLA

    Ciao. Cred ca eu nu am scris raspunsul, feedbackul unde trebuia…poti vizualiza ceea ce am scris..sunt CAMILLA….vad ca in mailul cu raspunsul la teste ne ceri sa scriem despre dificultatile pe care le intalnim in dezvoltarea noastra…dar…unde putem sa scriem?…pe un mail ul de-l tau se poate? multumesc!

    • http://www.testepsihologice.net/ Vaida Bogdan

      Salut Camilla,

      Poti sa-mi trimiti mesajul direct ca raspuns la mail, il voi primi si am sa-ti raspund cum am posibilitatea 🙂


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